Love, Lust, Sex, & Attention Seekers

When is comes to Love, Lust, Sex, or Attention Seekers how can you decipher between each? Since when did it become that most people now confuse the difference between love and lust. Why does seem people are now getting into relationships because they want the sex and attention instead of wanting to find that one person that they want to spend the rest of their life with? If you could answer that for me feel free to enlighten me with your theories.

More and more people are losing their virginity before the age of 16. When did that happen? Because when I was in high school the normal age range to lose your virginity was between 17 and 23. I was reading an article the other day and it said that 12 year-old children are getting pregnant. My thought was “Wait, What? Babies should not be having babies let alone be having sex either.” What parent in their right mind would let their child start dating or let their child in the room alone with the opposite gender when they are in 6th/7th grade. Two of my three brothers and I all lost ours at the age of 17 which for two of us was our junior year of high school. My youngest brother I have no idea about but we all know he has good judgment and won’t do it unless he knows he is ready. But these young children do not know the responsibility that comes along with sex and intimacy because they are not mature enough to understand.

For two years I went on a journey where I would not be in a serious relationship with anyone. Sex was easier to come by because apparently I am very attractive according to a lot of people but I did find out a lot about myself and my likes and dislikes in men. For instance if he refused to come pick me up for our first date or complained about it on the date he was only getting one or two more dates out of me. If he just wanted to hang out at his house, order pizza, watch television and call that a “date” he was done right there. That is not a date that is ordering pizza and having a friend come over to watch television with you. My standards became high and it was harder to find a guy who actually fits with my personality and hits my standards and want to push beyond my expectations.

I started dating my boyfriend April 21, 2013. At first I did not know what to expect from him because we did not really know each other. He supported every decision I made and I’ve supported him on every one he made. The fact he has put up with my weirdness and encouraged my personality is two of the main reasons I have loved him since we have started dating. Peter has met all my standards thus far an pushing beyond my expectations. He is the only guy that my parents approve of. I think it’s because he likes all the same things my father does except sports. But anyways, since our one year anniversary strangers who we meet have already been assuming that we are either married or engaged. The weird part about it is that neither one of use wears a ring and the one I did wear broke around the time of our anniversary.


Babysitting in a huge house in Westbury, New York

So of course my phone dies while I am babysitting these two kids who’s father is loaded. I know I am being judgmental but seriously the kitchen is bigger that my bedroom with the attic and my closet combined. I have no idea what he does or why he works so late at night but if I had this house and this property I would try to work from home as much as possible.

The house has a beautiful kitchen with an island and a refrigerator that would consume most kitchens alone. There is an outstanding dinning room that is basically empty, yet  so is most of the down stairs. Oh I wish i could live in this house because I would love to decorate this house and fix up the pool house and guest houses. There is even a 4 car garage. There is a in-ground pool with a diving board and an in-ground hot tub.

So much yard space that  you could possibly put a football field in it with stadium seating. I would probably leave the lawn as it is. But I love to fix up what needed to and have this place looking the way it should.

Adventures to Abandonment

Have you ever wanted to go exploring in haunted or abandoned places? I’ve always wanted to go into places that were left just to see if they were actually haunted or if people had left things there.

Places like the Pilgrim Psychiatric Center in the Deer Park/Bay Shore/Brentwood area of Long Island, New York is one of those places that has been abandoned for years and I’ve always wanted to go exploring. Another place that has had a great interest of mine is 6 Flags New Orleans. When Hurricane Katrina basically took out the area 6 flags was never restored.

Drive-in movie theaters have been a thing of the past. The old signs that still have are still beautiful to look at and it is rare to find one that is still open and full running. The first and only drive in movie theater I got to see was when I was 16 years old when my family took a vacation to Cape Cod, MA. I don’t remember what town it was actually in but it was still awesome. (it is also a wordpress blog) has a lot of places that I’d love to just explore. One of the places is the Domino Sugar Refinery in Brooklyn which you can see from I believe the BQE. It is kind of hard to miss when it says Domino on it.

People may think it’s strange to want to explore these places. I find these places fascinating and beautiful even though they are creepy and may be haunted. Maybe seeing where paranormal or even hauntings take place makes me curious to explore such places but knowing that there i beauty within the structures and landscapes that have overtaken these buildings draw me in.

Some Summer Recipes

I love trying new foods and recipes during the summer. Since this is the summer before I turn 25 I might as well expand my cooking abilities especially since I’ve never actually tried making drinks by following directions before. The first two recipes I found on the social media phone app: Instagram. It was posted by: @freeeatingplan and @smtofficial.

Mexican Chopped Salad with Spiced Citrus Vinaigrette


  • 1 teaspoon Cumin Seeds
  • 1 teaspoon Coriander Seeds
  • 1/8 teaspoon Cayenne, optional
  • 1 teaspoon minced fresh garlic
  • 1/4 cup fresh orange juice, plus 1/2 teaspoon finely grated orange zest
  • 1/4 cup fresh lime juice, plus 1/2 teaspoon finely grated lime zest
  • 1 shallot, minced
  • 1.5 tablespoons agave syrup or honey if you can not fined agave syrup
  • 1/3 cup extra virgin olive oil
  • sea salt and freshly ground pepper


  • 2 cups Halved Grape Tomatoes
  • 2 cups Peeled & Diced Jicama
  • 1 can Black Beans, rinsed and drained
  • 1 1/2 cups Peeled, seeded and chopped avocado
  • 1 Each, thinly sliced red, yellow and orange bell peppers, roasted
  • 2 cups Edamame, roasted*
  • 2 cups Corn, fresh or frozen (thawed), roasted*


  • 1 cup Crumbled Queso Fresco
  • 1/3 cup Chopped Fresh Cilantro
  • 1/4 cup Chopped Scallions *toss Edamame & Corn With Canola or Grapeseed Oil.
  • Spread Out On a Baking Sheet. Roast, at 425 for 10-15 minutes.

DIRECTIONS: To make vinaigrette, toast cumin and coriander seeds in a small skillet, over medium high heat, for 2 minutes or until fragrant and lightly toasted. Grind in a spice grinder or clean coffee grinder. Place spices in a mini food processor, along with cayenne, garlic, orange juice and zest, lime juice and zest, shallot, agave, and olive oil. Puree. Season generously with salt and pepper. Arrange salad ingredients in sections on a large serving platter; drizzle with vinaigrette, sprinkle with queso fresco, cilantro and scallions. Serves 10.

Rainbow Chopped Salad with Avocado & Basil Dressing


  • 1 large head romaine
  • 1/2 small head red cabbage
  • 8 oz. cherry tomatoes
  • 1 English cucumber
  • 2 carrots
  • 1 yellow bell pepper


  • garbanzo beans
  • black beans
  • corn, sprouts,
  • fresh herbs, etc.

{For the dressing}

  • 1 avocado
  • Juice from 1 lemon (more to taste)
  • 3/4 cup lightly packed fresh basil
  • 1-2 cloves garlic
  • 1 tsp. agave/honey
  • 1/4 cup olive oil
  • 1/4 cup water
  • 2 Tbsp. white wine vinegar
  • 1/4 tsp. salt

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The following recipes from the Good Housekeeping Magazine Recipes (July 2014 issue).



  • 5 mint leaves
  • 2 orange wedges
  • 1 ounce Laird’s Apple Brandy or Applejack
  • 1 ounce Pimm’s No. 1
  • 3/4 ounce lemon juice
  • 1/2 ounce Saigon Cinnamon Syrup
  • 1/4 ounce Demerara syrup or simple syrup
  • 7 dashes old fashioned or angostura bitters
  • Soda water, for topping

In cocktail shaker, muddle mint and orange wedges with wooden spoon. Add apple brandy, Pimm’s, lemon juice, cinnamon syrup, Demeraa syrup and bitters. Shake well and double strain into Collins glass. Top with soda water; garnish with mint sprig. Serves 1.


  • 2 blackberries
  • 1 1/2 ounce orange juice
  • 1 ounce lemon juice
  • 1 ounce Saigon Cinnamon Syrup
  • Soda water, for topping

In cocktail shaker, muddle blackberries with wooden spoon. Add orange juice, lemon juice, and cinnamon and shake well. Stain into Collins glass; top with soda water. Serves 1.

Simple Recipes

No cook Watermelon cake

Slice 2 short ends off 1 large seedless watermelon so it sits flat. Cut away rind to make cylinder. Transfer to cake stand. Frost with 2 8 ounce containers frozen whipped topping. Top with berries and mint. Serves 10.

Feta-Watermelon Stacks

Cut 1 small seedless watermelon into 1 inch cubes. Top with 1 (1-pound) block feta cheese, cut into 1 inch squares (1/4 inch thick), and 1 cup basil leaves. Secure with toothpicks. Transfer to platter. Sprinkle with 3 tablespoons and 1/4 teaspoons each of salt and pepper. Serves 10.

Grilled Chicken-Watermelon Tacos

Toss 2 cups chopped seedless watermelon; 1 jalapeno, minced; 1/2 small red onion, minced; 1/4 cup each of lime juice and chopped cilantro; and 1/4 teaspoon salt. Serve on 8 (6 inch) warmed corn tortillas with 1 pound sliced grilled chicken and 1/2 cup crumbled Cotija cheese. Serves 4.

Watermelon – Arugula Salad

In large bowl, whisk 2 tablespoons each of olive oil and red wine vinegar and 1/4 teaspoon of salt. Add 3 cups each of cubed seedless watermelon, sliced peaches, and baby arugula; 1/2 cup basil leaves; and 1/4 cup toasted hazelnuts, chopped. Serves 4.

Frozen Watermelon Coolers

In large blender, puree (stopping often to tamp down solid ingredients with wooden spoon) 4 cups cubed seedless watermelon, frozen; 5 cups ice; 1 cup each raspberry sorbet and lime juice; and 1/2 cup confectioners’ sugar until thick and smooth. Serves 4.



Heat large covered saucepot salted water to boiling on high.

Meanwhile, make pesto: in food processor, pulse until smooth:

  1. 1 cup packed parsley leaves
  2. 1/2 cup packed mint leaves
  3. 1/3 cup walnut halves
  4. 2 tablespoons lemon juice
  5. 2 garlic cloves, smashed
  6. 1/2 teaspoon salt
  7. 1/4 teaspoon pepper

With motor running, slowly add until smooth:

  1. 1/3 cup olive oil
  2. then 1/4 cup water

COOK: 1 pound penne as directs, but 4 minutes before penne is done cooking add 1 bunch asparagus, cut into 1 inch pieces. Then, 2 minutes before penne is done, add 2 cups frozen peas. Drain when done.

TOSS pasta mixture with pesto and 1/4 teaspoon salt. Top with 1/3 cup ricotta cheese. SERVES 6.




  • 1 tablespoon ground siagon or regular cinnamon
  • 2 cups granulated sugar
  • 2 cups water

In 3 quart saucepan, bring cinnamon, sugar, and water to boiling on medium heat, whisking. Simmer 15 minutes, than strain through cheesecloth-lined fine-mesh sieve into liquid measuring cup. Cool completely. Makes 2.5 cups.



Empire State tattoo convention

This past weekend was the Empire State tattoo convention. One of my best friends, Melissa MacDonald and I went Friday night. We both have multiple tattoos and she had made an appointment with one of the shops that had a booth there for 5 pm. We got there around 4 so we can not only find the booth where Get Inked was located but to walk around and see what else was there.

Since her lotus tattoo took about six hours we not only met a lot of interesting people but we got free drinks from one of the booths. Plus I bought two steadfast brand shirts and made friends with a lot of their pin up models.


the pre-ink trace to know the good place to put it







The trainee for Get Inked thought Melissa and I were sisters the entire time until her tattoo was done. Above is some photos from the night including the before during and after her tattoo session.

My Best Friend’s Wedding

Since the day I met Lynn Bonita Cole in the 6th grade I knew I found a life long friend. Behind all the metal and the love for singing there is a person who has a passion and loved with her whole heart. After middle school we kind of drifted apart because of different high schools and schedules until senior year when I decided to not only do cross country but swimming as well.

Like most friends who are really close but have different personalities and views on certain topics we fought then a few days later we were over it.
Like most relationships no matter what kind had it’s ups and downs.

April 2014 I got a phone call from my best friend. She was engaged. I didn’t even know she was dating anyone. Apparently she had been seeing this one guy in between all of her other relationships and didn’t want to tell me about it. Later that day I met up with her at David’s Bridal and we found her dress. 20140612-114551-42351590.jpg
We did a lot of planning for her big day. As the day drew near her fiancé and her started fighting a lot. But English is not his first language so he still has trouble communicating when he is frustrated or stating how he feels without my friend getting mad.

May 31 at 11 am: final dress fitting.




June 6th her bachelorette party aka birthday party at Duffs




June 7, 2014
6 years after we graduated high school
My best friend got married